Are you in a season where you’ve asked for help? Help getting over something, to renew something in your life, for something more fulfilling and more meaningful? 

Maybe you’re seeking a more meaningful career or to get out of the nine-to-five to do something that you enjoy, or that can afford you a better lifestyle, career-wise. Or maybe you’re waiting to heal from an ailment, and it might not even be physical. It could be a mental ailment, emotional pain, heartbreak or anything like that. You have your answer. But why do you feel stuck?!

This may be your wading season. Not “waiting” as in being still, but wading, like wading through water. There’s a difference.

Why you feel stuck!

Usually, during this season where you are receiving the answer, some people feel like, “Oh my, nothing seems to be happening.” You’ve saught change. You’ve done what you could. And still, it feels like nothing’s happening.  It may look like things are still. As if you’re living out the same day, still in the same motion. Or maybe other things are happening, but it’s not the thing you asked for or not in the way you expected.

Months could go by. Maybe even years. And it’s just like… what is happening right now?

What if I told you that what feels like “stuck” isn’t stuck at all?

What if you’re not waiting, but wading through healing, through lessons, through the quiet transformation that doesn’t always look like progress, but is?

You’re not stuck.
You’re not being punished.
You’re being prepared.

This is the season where everything shifts from the inside out. And once you understand what’s really happening in this space, you’ll see it for what it truly is: sacred, intentional, and necessary.

Let me help you understand the wading season, because it can steer up anxiousness. 

But what’s usually happening is everything that you actually need to happen.

Rest: When You’re Called to Be Still

You’ll know you’re in a wading season when you have time to rest. When you are resting.

You may have experienced a situation where you can hear clearly. Maybe receiving the inclination to “Rest.” And you listen. You’re like, “Okay, I’m just gonna rest. Tell me what that looks like. Help me out.”

But sometimes, it doesn’t happen like that.

Some people are given a reason to rest. Life might give you no choice. An injury, burnout, illness, something that makes you slow down or otherwise would you?

So maybe if you were working certain hours, that’s cut short or cut off completely, temporarily. You might take short-term leave to make time for recovery. You might consider adjusting your work schedule so you can stay at home and literally rest.

What Resting Looks Like

Rest can look like a lot of things:
Stillness.
Sitting and meditating.
Laying down.
Giving your body time to decompress.
Giving your mind time to reflect.

Life gives you rest in your wading season. While you’re wading on the thing you’ve asked for.

Reflecting: Taking Inventory

During rest, you also get plenty of time to reflect on past behaviors, choices, and lifestyle. You may ask questions like…

“How did I get here?”
“What did I do?”
“What patterns led me here?”

The responses that may come up may bring about unpleasant feelings leading to resistance. We don’t want this as resistance is likely to cause more suffering. Understand that most poor decisions made were not choices but reactions led in trauma responses. Knowing so, we open ourselves to the truth within and seek counseling or advisement from mature companion, if need be.

Resistance to rest may also be due to the need to feel productive. Out of habit we can be used to operating on the go, go, go. This might be the first time where you are less productive, at least in the way the world would define it. But this is a gift, this is your time to reflect.

New Student Enrollment

Another thing that might be happening during this time is being called to learn new things. You find a new focus. Whether it’s clinical therapy, a new diet, or physical rehab. Expect to be provided new tools. The blessing here is that, in recovery you’re gaining wisdom. You might be studying books, courses, or absorbing information in classrooms. Maybe it’s not a physical teacher, but you’re still in school.

Study based on what you asked for can include:

• Money management
• Time management
• Managing relationships
• Learning self-love
• Taking care of your physical or mental health
• Etc.

Strategizing: A New Plan

Now you start comparing your current ways with the new strategies you have learned. This is part of answering: How did I get here?

In self-evaluation, you may ask:

• What did I do before that didn’t work?
• What caused this ailment, this burnout, this breakdown?
• What needs to change?

You’re contrasting the old way with the new things you’re learning. And now you have a better way forward. Now, you can make a new plan.

Going forward:

• How will you handle relationships?
• What did you learn from the old relationships?
• What do you do differently now?

You’re reflecting. You’re learning. And now you have the right information for strategizing and moving forward.

Purging: Making Space for the New

Next comes purging.

And this might happen throughout the season. But at some point, it might feel like it’s all at once. You begin releasing and letting go. Dropping things. Throwing out what no longer fits.
You might be:

• Decluttering
• Getting rid of old habits
• Moving
• Ending friendships or relationships
• Changing your diet
• Releasing items, clothes, tools

These things are no longer in alignment with the new life strategy. So they’ve got to go.

Pouring: Filling Up with What Aligns

After the purging comes the pouring.

You start to be poured into and you begin pouring into yourself. Even before the new fully arrives, you’re laying the foundation. You’re filling your time with better habits. Learning what energizes you, what motivates you. Hopefully you are documenting all of this in the meantime. None the less, this is your time to create.

This could look like :

• Writing
• Filming
• Painting
• Vlogging

You might even notice the old coping mechanisms fall away. Drinking, smoking, whatever it was it doesn’t serve you anymore. You’re not just coping anymore. You’re thriving.

You’re building new habits that actually make you feel good. That don’t drain or deplete you. The new people, new energy, new mindset fill your space.

You’re attracting new people, relationships, experiences that are reciprocal, fulfilling, and in alignment.

Before the Promise Comes

So in this whole process:

• You REST to reflect 
• You STUDY and learn your lessons
• You STRATEGIZE and set goals
• You PURGE what doesn’t fit
• You POUR in what does

And then, eventually, comes the promise. What you have been preparing for you all along.

Ever Becoming.. or You Already Are

Waiting is like sitting in a lobby, knowing your name will be called. There’s a scheduled moment ahead, but this? This is more than just an appointment.

It’s preparation time.

You’re being given space to grow, to stretch, to build the skills and resilience needed to sustain what’s coming. So when the opportunity arrives, you’re ready. Not just to receive it, but to protect it, appreciate it, and thrive within it.

It’s about making sure:

You won’t let it slip away.

You have what you need.

You’re equipped to expand.

You’ve gained the insight and experience to hold onto what you’ve worked for.

Grace for the Journey

This season is full of purpose. You are being expanded so that you can receive what’s next. You’re learning how to release what no longer serves you, things you’ve carried for years, maybe even passed down through generations. You are clearing space to build a life aligned with who you are becoming.

So yes, this is your wading season.

But it’s not idle. It’s preparation.

And maybe, just before the promise, you forget. You slip for a second. That’s okay. You remember what you have learned. And this time, it won’t take years to get back on track because you’ve been through it. You’re not starting over. You have the tools now to bounce back quicker. Because this time, you know.

No, you don’t need to expect perfection. But you can expect progress because this season is filled with purpose. And you’re being expanded so you can receive what is certain to come.

And the promise is on its way.